“It’s time for another talk about men and women. No, not that talk. We’ve already discussed the basics. This is a conversation you weren’t expecting, but it’s one you need to hear. It’s part of what you need to learn as you grow up.
“We need to talk about consent. We need to talk about treating girls and women as people, not as objects to be conquered. We need to talk about rape so you know what it is, so that as you begin to become interested in other people sexually you understand how to treat them with respect, not as mindless, heartless objects. I know as you get older and develop new relationships, you’ll want to continue to treat people with respect, just as you do now. So that’s why we’re having this conversation.
“If a girl says no, you don’t have consent. If she is unconscious, you don’t have consent. If she is too drunk or stoned to give you a coherent answer, you don’t have consent.
“If a girl wears a short skirt, or high heels, or a low-cut blouse, she is not ‘asking for it.’ The same is true for a girl who flirts with you or with someone else, or with several guys. It doesn’t matter if you’ve bought her dinner or anything else. You are never ‘entitled’ to sex. And no girl or woman ever deserves to be raped. Don’t believe anyone who tells you otherwise. Anyone who says this is looking for an excuse to demean women and exercise power over them. You ought to be secure enough in who you are as a person not to need to push women down so that you can step over them. Be better than that; I know you can, and I know you are.